Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.
Today, we’re going to be talking about how your attitude impacts the work you do, and the impact you have on the world around you.
When I first start working with musicians, I ask them to fill me in on what they’ve been doing, how their work is proceeding and to tell me what it is they want to achieve in their career and life. Almost everyone starts by telling me what they want to do in the world, (yay!) how they believe they can do it (awesome!), but then they often take a turn into how they have been limited in what they can do by their location, their time, their finances, friends, family etc. There are so many reasons why your plans and ideal goals get derailed, with the most common being “life happened”.
While its totally normal for things to pop up that can distract us from our larger goals and it’s necessary for us to make sure we are taking care of the things that are truly important in our lives, for most of us, these “life happened” moments are nothing more than an excuse we give ourselves to make us feel better about the fact that we took our foot off the gas.
Everyday, every single one of has things happen to us that are out of our control. These things range from unexpected emails, to being stuck in traffic, planes being delayed all the way to family members and friends being hit by tragedy. Most of the time, there is nothing we can do to about these things, but if we allow them to, they can really distract us from our own lives and goals.
How many times have you allowed these types of things get in the way of your practice for example? Do you ever get so busy with life that you just don’t have time to practice?
Or, on the flip side, when you’re super committed to your practice, how many other things do you put on hold to make sure you get your practice sessions in?
When people tell me they got too busy to complete a goal or a task, or that something happened to them and it meant they couldn’t do what they had planned, most of the time its not about the things that happened to them, its about the fact that they’re playing victim to their circumstances. Of course there are times when its necessary to allow these things to take priority, but for most of us, most of the time, if you check yourself, you’ll find that everything is ok.
When we buy into the idea of things “happening” to us, we’re really buying in to a victim mentality. This mentality is based on the idea that things happen TO you, and that the world is preventing you from doing the things you really want to do. And I need to tell you that this victim mentality is doing nothing for you except preventing you from achieving you own goals, and making you look like you’re always making excuses for yourself.
We’re going to delve into other ways you might be keeping yourself small over our time together, but if you’re finding the happenings of “life” are preventing you from completing tasks, take a moment to think about if life is “happening” to you.
Check out this quote from Chuck Swindoll.
"Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill.
It will make or break a company, a home, an organization.
The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable.
The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude….Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it... We are in charge of our attitudes.”
Guys, did you catch it? " life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.”
If life is constantly happening to you and you find yourself constantly making excuses, perhaps its time to have a look at how you’re reacting to life.
Life is always going to be throwing things your way, and as you embark on your journey in entrepreneurship, I promise you, you will have challenges thrown at you from all directions, all at once and it can get totally overwhelming.
You can't control these things.
You can’t control other people.
You can only control how you react to these challenges.
If you’re having a hard time handling something, take a step back and observe HOW you’re reacting to it. Take some time to really think about it before you react.
I know that if I react instantly to a challenge and allow myself to react with the emotion of the initial shock, I make mistakes. By stepping back and checking myself, I can be sure my reactions are reasonable, true and useful.
Am I ok in this moment?
Is there anything I can do to resolve this challenge right now?
Do I really need to make an excuse for why I can’t complete this?
What if I take a new approach and take control of my side of things to make the project successful?
What If this challenge/obstacle is only 10% of the story? How can I make the other 90% effective?
For now, I want you to spend time and notice the things that “happen” to you this week. Are they really HAPPENING to you, or are they things you can react more positively toward? How can you limit the amount of time you spend as the victim this week?
Your thoughts and words create your reality, so use what you know from your life as a practicing musician, and take ownership of your reactions.
Above all remember, attitude is everything and "Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it"